CROSS-CULTURAL CONFUSION

*long post alert - necessitated by Code Freeze* I went to UK 6 months after my husband did, and in our fledgling 1.5 year old marriage  where earlier we had lived in a very basic rented flat in Kolkata, his hospital accommodation of a terraced house was pretty well-laid out. In the kitchen were things one … Continue reading CROSS-CULTURAL CONFUSION

In which the mother discusses bringing up a teenager

  The recent teenager’s death and the imbroglio related to it, in Calcutta, has brought in a lot of discussion around parenting, as schools and parents struggle to understand how not to make any mistakes and how to raise the perfect person. The thing is, there isn’t one. And neither are there perfect parents, so quit … Continue reading In which the mother discusses bringing up a teenager

Such are the dreams of the everyday (middle-aged) woman

So many aspects of my grandmother’s life were thoroughly unsatisfactory. Higher education was a privilege reserved for the boys in the family. Her choice of spouse was completely dictated by the parents and how she had other marriageable sisters ‘behind’ her. There was no question of her working outside the house. Her sphere of influence … Continue reading Such are the dreams of the everyday (middle-aged) woman

This too shall pass, and be forgotten. Sadly

I went and saw the movie 'Talvar' yesterday. It was taut, real and unsentimental. It did not take sides but in a Rashomon-like manner, brought out different perspectives, allowing the viewer to take the call on what could have happened. The movie brought out the silent anger which manifested in the hard gloss in the … Continue reading This too shall pass, and be forgotten. Sadly